There are Christmas Carols, Hanukah candles, buying gifts, dressing up, shopping, over extending, rushing, traveling , etc., It’s a busy time. Usually it’s a very melancholy time for me but for many reasons, it’s not this year. This year I’m just happily busy with lots to do. There’s my son’s 60th birthday to think about. There are Hanukah gifts and Xmas gifts and my new special present to myself , a little studio!
I have been thinking about renting a studio for a long time and I signed a month to month lease today! There is a section in town, in Santa Barbara, called the "Funk Zone” and it kind of reminds me of the beginning of the old Venice, where I had a studio, many years ago. I’m going to take photos there and maybe do some writing and drawing in this little quiet spot surrounded by other artists and galleries. I’m excited about this.
And then of course I’m looking forward to spending time with my children and grandchildren during their vacations. When you get right down to it, it’s really all about our families or the family of friends we have created.
Bottom line, that’s the best there is. And then comes clothes and jewelry (just kidding)!
Bob and I are going for a little 3 day trip to one of our favorite places, in Sedona for New Years and we are looking forward to that!
We have much to be grateful for whether we are singing Hark the Herald Angels Sing or Dreidel Dreidel!
We have much to be grateful for whether we are singing Hark the Herald Angels Sing or Dreidel Dreidel . Personally, I love both of them.
I wish you, all my friends a year of health , contentment and joy.
Let’s ring in 2018 together and look forward to peace in the world and in our hearts in the coming year.
Love to All,
So, the new thing I’m doing along with forgetting appointments, is either not writing things down in my book, or writing them down on the wrong day, week, or even month! Yes, I’m still using my book, instead of my phone, I want to see it! The problem is, I have to remember to write it down, and in the right spot!
I have an explanation for this. Someone gives me a date for two weeks from Tuesday and while I’m writing that down, another friend calls to invite me to lunch THIS Thursday and somehow I write that down, forgetting my book is open to 2 weeks in advance Wait, What? That sounds kookoo even to me
My favorite is when I write down 11:30 and that’s it , Where? When? Who? No idea!! Praying for a phone call.
My other maddening thing I’m doing, is writing emails and not pressing send and getting very self righteous when someone says they didn’t receive it and I say well, I wrote It (I don’t always tell them the part about not sending) Is this a matter of totally losing it or is it that I’m just doing too many things? I want to hear a chorus of everyone saying,“You’re just doing too many things”! Am I on my way to dotage? I’m not even sure exactly where that is, but I know I don’t want to go there.
Dame Judi Dench, about to turn 83, remembers hundreds of lines, thousands of words, every day, why can’t I remember to press send? I don’t get it.
Being late is another issue I’m not solving. Why do things go wrong at the last minute for me and not for other people? I’ll tell you why. It’s because I don’t give any extra time for, things going wrong at the last minute. That’s why! Other people must do that. When I arrive, all out of breath and flustered they sit there with a patient smile on their faces(those are the nice ones) the others , oh you get the picture. They are not happy with me!! And I’m not happy with me either because I did it again.
Where are my keys, my sunglasses and my purse???? Right before I leave the house they have mysteriously disappeared! How could that be? They were right here a minute ago.
The other thing I do, I have to ask myself “did I return that phone call or did I just think about returning that phone call? I have no idea!
By the way, can you ever find where you parked your car after a movie? In a parking lot somewhere. Was it near blue B7? Green C5? I walk around for an hour, clicking my key looking for my car. Just before I burst into tears and call Bob to come get me, I find it and it’s as if I won the sweepstakes. It’s crazy!
I have this feeling that Dame Judi Dench knows exactly where everything is at all times and that makes me feel embarrassed for myself!!
But, can she dance?
I was asked to be on a panel at the most wonderful conference in Los Angeles on November 3rd and 4th. They had terrific speakers, from life coaches to chefs to She Tank investors, a spin off on Shark tank with all women. It was in earnest and it was fascinating. The air was jubilant in the room at all times. Women in their 40’s and 50’s coming to find out how to better their lives in every way they can.
A couple of years ago I was invited to do a video with Catherine Gray, the person who thought this up and she said “ and I’m going to do a book and I’m going to do a women’s conference and you know what? She has! And it was sold out!!
I was invited to be on The Forever Young Panel and it was inspiring, even to me. I was one of five panelists and one of the babies on the panel. We ranged from 80-93.
"Every morning I put headphones in, listening to anything from Bruno Mars to Louie Prima"
When asked what she did to start the day, the 93 year old woman, who happened to be an actress and the mother of some of my children’s friends, said she started off her day by singing Broadway tunes in the shower and that made her happy for the rest of the day. I’m going to try that this morning! We all agreed when you wake up, its important to have a purpose. One woman wakes up to go to Pilates another reads the paper and heads to work. What do I do every morning? I put headphones in, listening to anything from Bruno Mars to Louie Prima and walk along the beach, greeting the seals, dolphins and the birds as I go. I think the Broadway tunes thing is the best idea yet!
Photo(From Left to Right) Catherine Gray, Host and Moderator; Elaine Leader (90); Harriet Rossetto (80); BHF (83); Pink Lady (85); Gloria Stroock (93)
This conference made me realize how hungry women are to learn from other women, to better themselves, and to find out how to make their life count the most. We all are looking for answers from each other and women, God Bless Us, are great at communicating. Ergo, Women’s Conferences! It always goes back to the question going around in my own head, “we are living longer, how can we make the extra years more meaningful?”
I think we are doing a really great job!
Arlyn Goldsby, Santa Barbara’s answer to Helen Mirren, is our newest woman of interest, and rightly so.
She is hip. She is current. She is interested and interesting and if that’s not enough she is also involved. She is out and about, dressed to the 9’s, totally immersed in whatever is happening around town.
Arlyn, who is a Cleveland girl through and through, came from an artistic family on her father’s side. Her father’s family was always involved in the arts and thus ballet became her love early on in her life. When she was a child, her aunt was a prima ballerina for he Metropolitan Ballerina and the Ballet Russe. Thus began her love of this beautiful form of dancing. Her mother’s side was the sweetness she inherited, Arlyn says with a smile.
She started her business career with Phyliss Sues as a dress designer in the 60’s. Phyliss was very influential in the fashion industry and as her partner, Arlyn did too. When Phyliss retired, Arlyn became a consultant and eventually struck up a friendship with a model named Riki Van Dusen. Together, they opened a dress shop in Studio City on Ventura Blvd. At first, they were upstairs in a little office selling samples of well-known designers by appointment only. It immediately became a huge hit.
At this point in her life, Arlyn was divorced and a single mother of two young children, a girl and a boy. It was not an easy time in her life to juggle everything but because of the new business, it was an exciting time. They were so successful they decided to open a storefront and Van Dusen Green became a household name to women all over Los Angeles! That success story lasted 17 years. Her partner wanted to take a step back from the business, and so they decided it was time Van Dusen Green closed down.
Arlyn went back to consulting and it was during this time she met the love of her life, Marlowe Goldsby. They just had this thing between them that couldn’t be denied. There were other men chasing her, but it was Marlowe all the way! They had a beautiful love story. Marlowe was in the furniture business and excellent at it. Somewhere along the line they decided to move to Santa Barbara and that’s when her next chapter began. She fell in love with Santa Barbara.
At first she went back what was familiar to her and bought into an existing business called Objects on Coast Village Road. She immediately tripled the business. Here again was another big success for her.
Also Arlyn started mentoring young women in business in a group called Women’s Economic Ventures She enjoyed that for many years. They bought a beautiful glass walled house on the beach, remodeled it and it is the house Arlyn still lives in today even though she lost her beloved Marlowe.
It was time for the second love of her life to take over and that is the Ballet. Not only is she a board member of the State Street Ballet but a mentor to the young dancers, even inviting them to come live with her. She adores them. Two of the dancers from the ballet met and fell in love and Arlyn is throwing the wedding at her house. This is where her heart and soul remains.
“Always take good care of yourself. The greatest thing in life is your good health”
Her children, her FIVE grandchildren, and the ballet all find room to live in Arlyn’s big heart. Always looking forward she is planning to get “American Tango,” an original ballet musical about the dancing couple named Veloz and Yolanda, made and presented at the Wallace theatre in Beverly Hills. I love that she is always planning ahead.
Her advice on aging? “Always take good care of yourself. The greatest thing in life is your good health,” she said.
Her closing words to me were “God Damn, I’m lucky”!!!!
Oh by the way, on her next birthday this happening lady, will celebrate turning 90!!!