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We Are In This Together!

1/13/2017

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Happy New Year! I’m always excited about January. January brings a new beginning! Everything is possible! New promises and new objectives are promised to ourselves. A clean slate! I can’t wait to get at it! Get off the sugar kick, get rid of carbs and step up the cardio. I know, I say the same every year but every year I believe myself.
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​The last couple of times I spoke, I have had men come up to me and say. “You, know we are aging too! Why don’t you talk about us?" Well, of course it’s true! We are all aging from the day we are born, both men and women. I always thought men had an easier time with it but I see it is tough for them in different ways! I thought the top problem for men would be the loss of their identity once they stopped working in their field. Now in retirement, it is time for them to find another source of

identity. In their old lives, they had assistants to do their phoning and their planning. They had co-workers to ask questions of and plan out projects with. Now they are in a foreign land, alone, and expected to do all this themselves. It’s difficult. Because we are living longer they need to find new passions, new ways to express themselves. 
My husband gave me his list of things that bothered him about aging and I loved it! He said as men grow older the inability to compete is one the hardest things to deal with in business and in sports! How profound! He misses his memory,(who doesn’t) the ease to drive at night, and get this, put on his socks,!!(not easy , with a back problem) Unfortunately for all of us we need to accept and adjust and move  on. 
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We women, find aging a little bit easier in those departments. We have other worries. We know we have to keep our minds active. We know we must find firsts to keep relevant! We need to have empathy for men with the losses age brings them. 

​Firsts are hard to find in your 70's, 80's and 90's but they are there and they are really necessary! ​
I started Tai Chi last year for the first time. My husband started Pilates. Both firsts. I spoke to a group in SB and I heard a 92 year old woman started Yoga. Also at that same talk there was a couple that had just married. Both were 89. That may not have been the first time they got married but it certainly was the first time they got married at that age. The point is you are never too old to look and follow a dream of yours

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I find there are four simple rules to live in a Healthspan instead of a Lifespan for both men and women; Exercise, keep your brain active, Eat well, and stay socialized!
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To stay socialized is just as important as eating the right foods. That’s why married people stay alive longer than single people. If you don’t have a significant other or family in your life keep friends nearby and see them for a lunch, a walk, or dinner. After all is said and done, a laugh between friends is the best medicine for men and women alike. ​Let’s help each other, in this new territory we have found ourselves, with love , empathy and above all, humor!​​


14 Comments
Bobbi elliott
1/25/2017 01:06:39 pm

Looking forward to reading it

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Beverlye
1/28/2017 10:31:32 am

Dear Bobbi,

"We Are In This Together" was my first blog. You should be getting it every week now. Love you! B

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Marie Ekins link
1/25/2017 02:36:31 pm

Very inspirational and informative. I enjoyed the layout and nicely placed images, along with the font. I know how difficult building a site can be. Best of luck,
Marie

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Beverlye
1/28/2017 10:33:46 am

Thanks Marie for replying because you understand. Hope you enjoy. Love, Beverlye

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Judi Foreman
1/25/2017 10:45:42 pm

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Donna K. Stellini link
1/26/2017 06:13:18 am

I am over in Bagan, Myanmar and for the very first time in my life, tomorrow morning I am going to take balloon ride looking at the Temples that I have been climbing (long steep steps)and photographing. I am just so excited to be able to do this. Loved loved what you had to say. You are a natural wonderful writer.

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Beverlye
1/28/2017 10:34:32 am

Good for you! So proud of you. Let me know if you like my new website. Love, Beverlye

Beverlye
1/28/2017 10:32:52 am

Hi Judi,

It said your name, but not a message. Do you like my new website? Tell me everything you like and don't like. And my blog too. Love to you.

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Rachel McLish
1/26/2017 10:32:12 am

Bev...I absolutely LOVE your perspectives, and it's such a joy that we all get to share in your 'Beverlye-ness!' Love you bunches!

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YVONNE SMITH
1/26/2017 11:38:31 am

What a terrific website. You and it look marvellous! Well done!

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Susan Pitcher
1/26/2017 04:52:15 pm

Love this Beverlye! Looking forward to following it!

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Judy Foreman
1/28/2017 11:50:01 am

I think this is a very relevant article for everyone. Men have a hard time too and are faced with different challenges. The continuing great message is not to fear aging and that you can still have a 'wonderful and productive life, just a little slower perhaps. Continue moving and safeguarding your physical and emotional health seems key.

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Babs sobel
1/29/2017 07:51:28 am

What a wonderful way to start my morning. You have always been a great inspiration. I have always needed new things in my life and thank goodness for good friends to do them with me.
Thanks for you Beverlye... I so look forward to your blogs and now your website
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Maile Schoonover
1/30/2017 10:34:04 am

Great piece Beverlye!

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