I went to LA for my daughter’s birthday and after much
discussion it was decided I should sleep at my son &
daughter-in-law's house because it was closer to the
freeway and I had to be back in Santa Barbara by 11. I
had a luncheon to go to in Santa Barbara that was
honoring my friend. She’s done such good work , I
definitely wanted to go. So, I brought my dressy clothes
and set the alarm for 8. Those of you who do not know
me, don’t know how difficult it is for me to get up at that
hour because I don’t sleep well at night, I love to sleep in
the morning hours. But set it at 8:00 I did. I had to wake
up, get dressed, put makeup on. Put on tennis shoes,
with high heels sitting next to me for a quick change
once I get there. I was only 15 minutes late so I was very
happy, thinking people would still be piling in. I pulled
in the front of the hotel and there were no people piling
in. Oh oh! I got that sinking feeling that I have had
before, but I soldiered forward anyway, “Excuse me, I
asked, Where is the luncheon today?” Knowing full well
as I was asking, what he was going to answer. “We have
no luncheon here today, he said, and of course, I knew
he was right. So, I drove in from LA and here I was all
dressed up at 11:00. I called Bob and asked if he wanted
to have lunch with me, fortunately, he said yes. Thank
god for husbands!
Want to hear the kicker??? It was for the Alstheimer’s
Luncheon. It’s in two weeks. Well, at least I didn’t miss
Guess I’m not 60 anymore!!
This one is for you, Gerd!
Traveling with your mate is really nice too. Different in so many ways, but still nice. We went to New York, barely four days after I returned from Mexico with my girlfriends. I put away my bathing suit, took out my turtle necks, gloves, and coat. My husband had to be there for a board meeting and coincidentally, it was our anniversary. This time, no lounging by a pool or walking on a beach, but instead, walking up and down Madison avenue, meeting with friends for lunch and dinners, and having champagne in the room on the night of our anniversary. We saw plays, went to La Galue, (we like it so much, we went there twice), and brunch at Fred's. We shopped from Bergdorfs to Zara's on 59th. We took taxis, Uber's, napped, had breakfast sent up, and read the Sunday paper. It was an easy New York trip. We didn't rush to museums or run down to the village, we walked mostly everywhere, and it all felt very familiar. We stayed at the Regency Hotel where we had been married 28 years ago (we think). Could that much time have passed by? The answer is yes. In a trip with a man, you don't get to pour your souls out but you do get to hold hands. It was nice, and comfortable, and sweet.
I'm lucky I got to do both.
I'll take it.
I love going out of town with my husband. We find a part of us that unfortunately is sometimes forgotten. We remember how much fun it is to be together and how great it is to meet new people, learn new things and reestablish our relationship.
But then there is a girl’s get away trip and that is exactly what it is! You get away from your reality, mates, dogs, errands, etc. and in this you go right into someone else’s vacation reality. So when my friend Teri asked Judy and I to come to her fabulous house in Mexico for her birthday, we both jumped at the chance. There were other girls invited who could not make it so Judy and I lucked out to have Teri and the house to ourselves! It is a breathtaking house on a magnificent strip of beach and I am always blown away by every detail and the exquisite taste that went into the making of this house.
On a girl’s trip, there is no makeup, no hairdo, and a lot of talking, laughing and sometimes some tears. Even though one might have brought the perfect clothes, you end up wearing the same thing in one variation or another, every day.
You eat whenever, nap whenever, swim in the aqua pool and the warm ocean and then nap some more. Oh yes, there is lot’s of reading and noshing happening too. We watched a little news and we talked about everything from Judge Kavanaugh to Sally Field’s love life.
As an added bonus with this gorgeous house, there is a fabulous spa right down the beach where we would receive our daily treatment (massage, stretching, acupuncture and yoga). One day we actually made it into Zihuatanejo for a little lunch and shopping. Of course, we celebrated Teri’s birthday at the Present Moment (the name of the spa, who by the way has wonderful food) with Tequila and cake.
It’s a different vacation with a man. It’s relaxing, easy and delicious
If you haven’t tried it, you must!!!
Girls Trip Best Quotes – ‘Today is the last day that we will ever be this young.’
Welcome back readers!
I hope you had a wonderful summer filled with hiking, friends, swimming, reading and most importantly good health and family.
Bob and I did not make it to Capri this year but instead visited grandchildren at Northwestern (Tess), and Santa Clara (Max). We went to Canyon Ranch in Tucson for a speaking engagement with hiking and massages thrown in and San Francisco for a whirlwind surprise from Bob for my birthday with couple of magnificent meals. we also hit Sun Valley for pure R & R. In our case, that means a lot of eating especially at Christina’s (our favorite) and a little hiking.
I was so happy that Bob did well in both altitude with hiking with his bad back and so did I with my weird hip. Our friend Mike went with us and saw Sun Valley for the first time and fell in love with it. We were scheduled to go earlier in the year but got called off earlier from fires and smoke all around the area. I’m so glad we waited because it was crystal clear and perfect temperature.
There is an epiphany that I had a few weeks ago that I can’t wait to tell you about. It has caused me to feel a peace deep within. I’m finding a certain kind of joy that I believe one can only obtain in their later life, a certain letting go. I’m no longer searching for anything other than joy. The self-imposed pressure I have been feeling on myself disappeared. I’m no longer searching for anything but joy. I no longer have to prove anything to anyone or more importantly to myself. I’m just looking for things that make me feel joyful. ie. Giving back, doing creative outlets, writing, painting, drawing. Don’t laugh, singing and dancing, etc.
I have started two new art classes at adult Ed. One is collage, a form of art that I have never taken before and the other is figure drawing. It feels wonderful. I’m rusty but happy to be there and learning once more.
My husband didn’t know what to do with himself after retirement, but has now partnered with an old friend and is happy to be back at work (part of the time). And yes, I have a new idea for a book that I will tell you about weeks to come. And yes, it is about my new epiphany.
So after three or four months of wondering what to do with my one and only “wild and precious” life. and what my next project will be, I think I’ve got it.
It’s about searching for and finding joy. I hope you will come with me.
Happy New Year to you all. May this year be the sweetest one yet.
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